Inspiring your small nonprofit team — 3 daily steps for leaders
Perhaps as a nonprofit leader, I’m guessing you can relate to my challenge. I was nattering along in my head the other day about something not going right, as we all do at times! Suddenly I stopped myself, and out loud, I said, “Thank you. That’s not part of the vision.”
My negative mind chatter needed to change fast!
The direction I was going with my mind chatter was definitely not the direction I wanted it to be going in my head or my life. Swirling down with negativity was not going to help my situation. Instead, pausing, expressing gratitude, and then reminding myself of my vision was much more helpful.
I shifted my mind with this powerful statement.
The statement “Thank you. That’s not part of my vision” comes from the book The Ant and the Elephant, which I read last week. In this easy, quick read by Vince Poscente, he encourages us to realize the enormous potential of our unconscious mind and how that can help us lead ourselves and others.
I totally recommend this book to any leader who wants to inspire and motivate their team.
Don’t get caught up in this trap.
What happens for many of us is that we tend to focus on what’s wrong and try and fix it. But unfortunately, focusing on what’s wrong makes us pessimistic, which leads to frustration, bitterness, anger, resentment etc. You get the picture.
It won’t help you create an engaged team.
Feeling negative, bitter and frustrated doesn’t make you feel any better, and it certainly doesn’t motivate and inspire those around you to do better. Furthermore, that kind of attitude will not engage your team; it also helps to make your employees feel connected, inspire loyalty and thus encourage retention of good employees.
Instead, when you can pull in towards the vision with inspiration, you’ll get a whole different response.
Gratitude makes the important shift in attitude that will create engagement.
Starting with gratitude is not often thought of as a tool to lead well. Sure it’s a happiness booster and something we like to add for feel good extras but using gratitude as a staple in leadership is not something many of us have been taught or currently practice. But it is.
Now, back to my learning from The Ant and the Elephant. Why is this statement, “Thank you. That’s not part of the vision,” so powerful for leaders? Let’s break down each component.
How to use gratitude to be a better nonprofit leader in 3 easy steps
First, we have to pause
First, we have to pause.
Pausing helps us get out of a negativity cycle, reactionary mode and brings us back to the present moment. In addition, it evokes mindfulness, something we all need a bit more of.
Second, we express gratitude.
Second, we express gratitude. Thank you.
The trick is that you can’t be angry and grateful simultaneously. You can’t be bitter, frustrated and annoyed and feel a sense of appreciation inside of you.
Expressing gratitude recognizes that, while maybe we are where we want to be, there are lessons to be learned about how we got here. Perhaps we are grateful for the reminder to get out of the negativity cycle. But gratitude turns us around.
Finally, we redirect our thoughts.
Finally, we redirect our thoughts. That’s not part of the vision.
Do you have a vision? This statement reminds us that we need a vision individually and as leaders. It’s an opportunity for us to reconnect to that vision and connect those around us to the vision.
Remember, if you don’t know where you’re going, any path will get you there. Leading your team around aimlessly is not going to help you generate engagement, motivate people or inspire loyalty.
So you need to know where you’re going!
- What vision do you have for the type of leader you want to be
- What’s the vision you have for the kind of team you want to lead
- What’s your vision for the impact you want you and your team to make?
When you pull all these three together, you can see how important each piece is.
- Pause
- Express gratitude
- Connect to the vision
Pausing and starting with gratitude is not always easy. Gratitude seems too easy or too fluffy. But, gratitude is more than that.
Gratitude isn’t a thing. It’s a feeling.
It is not just an attitude of gratitude. Nor is it simply to practice gratitude. It starts with a feeling of gratitude. When I say feel, I mean that literally ⬇️
We need to feel the transcendent sensation of 🙏🏻 gratitude in our bodies.
We need to feel it inside of us before we express it verbally.
We need to feel it viscerally before the expression of gratitude can be genuine.
And when we do this often, we create a culture of gratitude that pulls our team in, engages them and inspires them.
Here is an example of the 3 steps in practice
Let’s imagine the employee it’s a negative comment under staff meeting. You’ve just shared a slight shift to the new procedure. One way to respond is to get defensive and explain it again, this time a little bit louder with more emphasis. We all know how that’s gonna go!
Another way is to say:
“Thank you for sharing your views. Your frustration shows you care.
I know changes aren’t always easy. However, the vision I have is that once we get through the sticky parts of the change, and yes, we may still have to make some amendments, but once we get through all of those, I’m expecting that we’ll find it makes a big difference for our client’s outings.”
Thank you! That’s not part of the vision! But let me tell you what is part of the vision…
Extra resources for leadership gratitude
This month in The Training Library, my students are receiving a new lesson on gratitude for leaders.
As a member of The Training Library, you’ll receive a video lesson giving you strategies for implementing gratitude as a leader. Additionally, the worksheet students receive will take you from simply expressing “I’m grateful for…” to a whole other way of thinking about gratitude each day and applying it to your own life and your leadership.
Inspiring your team — 3 steps:
- It starts with pausing.
- Then, feeling and then expressing gratitude.
- Finally, connecting to your vision.
When you apply these three steps daily, you’ll be on your way to enjoying impactful leadership.
Originally published at https://www.kathyarcher.com.
